whatisis> I like how you mention others' reaction and treatment of divorce - like it is something you just get over! As I mentioned I was separated for a few years and no contact for the last year. The problem in my case may be that we work at the same place and see each other daily. My supervisor tried to get my office moved to give me more space away from him (didn't get approved) but for the most part my co-workers are supportive of the situation with me.
So, I thought being apart would make this part easy but i think the back and forth stuff kept me believing it would be ok. Now I am actually going through the "it is done" part and it still hurts. I am having a hard time thinking just about me and what I want - so used to having to check it out with someone else. Some days when I give in to those "wants" things more final, and some days I think that I am building walls that will not allow anyone else to come in.
