Thanks Beatrice. I feel that H is definitely feeling his way here and exploring possibilities. I saw the therapist agin today and she affirmed the slow but steady progress made. For example when I was out of town last week he took me to the airport and hugged me goodbye, text me to see how things were going one night (a first), collected me from the airport and when I came home there was homemade soup in the fridge. It feels ok as it is and I feel quite strong emotionally and so I continue.....slowly, slowly.