IB one of the saddest things that has come out of all this for me, nearly 6 years down the line, is a comment that my youngest son made. My xh is attempting [rather feebly] to rebuild relationships with his sons, and I asked my son how it was going - I rarely talk about my xh to them, btw. And he said that he could never again have his father close enough so that he could hurt him as much.
There was little I could say, except to feel huge compassion for both - the one who was hurt and the one who did so much damage. There are no winners in this, sadly. But there are survivors!! Your children will be able to talk to you in time Right now they see you hurting. If your h is sensible he will maintain a relationship with his children throughout this. Some manage it, many don't, and it damages them both.
