NO SURPRISE here...sorry but if you re read your posts here, you'll see a pattern of YOU being so impatient that you keep pestering her.
Giving her ultimatums when you are not in a position to give them; when someone is on the fence you don't "dare" them to jump off and expect them to land on YOUR side.
You set yourself up to be disappointed when she cannot meet your repeated expectations. She said she wanted space. YOU KEEP PESTERING HER AND CORNERING HER...
And the amount of time you think is reasonable is NOT realistic...OMG plus you said you did mistreat her in the past...
Look at my timeline in my signature. Get it?
Months to years, not weeks....please, really, you need to back off and stop pressing her for decisions...
And watch the anger and jealousy and things from you that are not coming from a place of love or light within. I hear a lot of bruised ego and pride and calling it a healthy boundary.
THEY ARE NOT the same...but sometimes, it's hard to know the difference. I GET THAT.
It's a fine line, a shifting line, a blurry one. So look within and really be honest about where your headed and why.
BTW****
I saw an old bf at my reunion and then on fb. Truthfully, it's great for the ego when they see you and you can tell they're still attracted. And He's still cute but we have nothing in common really.
A friend from the class died just after the reunion. On fb, old bf was sharing about it and I answered. At one point my h saw that the old bf was on fb and I asked h if he was worried or jealous and his response was so perfect--
He said, "worried that you'll leave me for HIM?? God no, um, If THAT'S WHO YOU WANT, YOU CAN HAVE HIM...
and it made me think for a minute..."oh yeah, bf earns 20% of my h's salary, isn't nearly as smart or educated, has no kids (a disadvantage in my book) did not raise mine and has little history with me comparatively, and isn't in great shape like h, etc
I just realized in less than 30 seconds how stupid I would be to even think of it. We shared maybe 4 messages about the late friend. H was not jealous and had no reason to be.
But his confidence was reassuring. And the reality of old bf was a little sad, b/c while he's still cute, he's kind of a loser. So is your w's old bf. He's Jobless? Borrowing money from HER/YOU??? OMG how pathetic... But as you corner her and question all those choices, you force her to keep defending them instead of really looking at them. WHY???
back off big time, please. And give her SPACE.... a lot more. Ignore div talk til you get served IF you do.
BTW 1/3 of divorces filed, NEVER go to completion...
Be the better choice.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
