Just another guy like you trying to bust a D with a W who has slightly tougher issues.
That being said just because she said those were her LL's I'd take that with a grain of salt. What she said sound like the stock answers Hollywood has convinced women to say. You know I want a kind gentle man that respects me, etc etc.
She may think she knows what her languages are but she may be fooling herself. The best way to find out is through trial and error. Try communicating in all the languages and see what type of results you get.
At the same time see what ticks her off. This will show you the opposite. For example when I neglect something around the house and create more work for her she always feels I do it on purpose. To her being careless or neglectful around the house is speaking the "hate language of neglect". Which is the inverse of "random acts of kindness".
So I have tried to cut Down on neglect and up on kindness.
