It has been 2 months since H left the house. Wow what a journey. As far as I know OW is long gone. I suspect she/he broke it off before the confrontation, that night, or shortly after.

My advice to fellow DB'ers...Be carefull of what you wish, pray and long for.

I have, I hope, have had the space and time to truly look at myself. I am not perfect. My husband isn't either. I love him as a person, but I am not sure that I "In love with him" anymore. I am struggling with this. I have my ups and downs.

We still have not talked about OW. We still do not live together. We spend weekends together and 1 night a week together. On the outside, we are a married couple, husband "is working out of town."

My question: I wanted this marriage to work sooooo badly. I read the books, I put into practice the techniques, I did it all. Now, I'm not sure that he is the one. When he comes over, I LOVE it. Eight hours later....not so much. Then, when he leaves, I want him to come back (never tell him this.)

My heart of hearts tells me that I will never forgive. My body and our "click" tells me something else.

What am I doing wrong?


me:51
H: 48
No kids together
M:14 years
seperated:Ask him to GET OUT 3/21/11
Piecing 09/14