"Your W thinks everyone will abandon her so she beats them to the punch. Not just that but she abandons those in her life that care for her and seeks new people that will enable her."
You're good.
Yes, I'm sure she is repeating the same chapter and verse about me that she said about H#1. I've accepted that and moved well past it. Nothing I can do about what she says to others.
Years ago when we were in counseling for what was the start of all of this, we read the 5LL. Her LLs were "Words of Affirmation" and "Acts of Service." Well, I took that information to heart and often - and sincerely - praised her and told her how proud I was of her accomplishments as a woman, wife, mother and professional. I did little things and big things to make her workload more bearable. Somewhere in the following years the wheels came off, though.
So I am trying to speak her LL again; not to curry favor or win brownie points, but because it is simply the right thing to do. So far this weekend has been calm, peaceful and almost normal. I'll take it.
H 56 W 48 D27,S21 SS25 SS22 Severely autistic M(#2 for both) 9 1/2 yrs. "I've never loved you" 3/7/2011 Separated 8/7/2011 BITS
