Piecing my marriage back together again.

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HerbGarden-

I don't even know what to say to you. I've read this entire thread and while you continue to abuse her.
I read that you are in IC, it sounds to me like you need to go back to anger management. What you are doing to your wife is unacceptable.
She obviously hasn't left yet because you have belittled her down to nothing. She more than likely has no self esteem or self worth. How can you do that to someone you supposedly love?

I don't mean to sound harsh, but you really need to quit saying you need to do things and actually start doing them. It doesn't sound like anything has changed from your first post to your last.

I also was verbally abusive to my H. Maybe not to the extent that you are to your W, but maybe even worse, I don't know.
He had finally, finally after about 4 years said he had enough and left.
At first I was angry, then devastated. It made me take a really good look in the mirror at the woman I had become.

Do you know what my H told me? That I had broken him down to the point where he hated himself and no longer wanted to be on this earth.
That is the hardest thing I ever had to hear. I would imagine your wife feels the same way.
You really, really need to stop saying you are going to do things and just start doing them, or you will lose her, and rightfully so.