Am I on the right track?? Help please!

[liz_palmer]

Ok so what I am I supposed to think about this....by brother-in-law has visited the last couple weekends but he usually left after the weekend was over. He's 23, single, and has no job or place to live. He's been living out of his car. THAT's a whole other website! LOL Anyway, we've let it be known that he's welcome for a couple days here or there, no problem. Well, my husband says to me on Friday that he was thinking of letting his brother stay in the guest room long-term. He asked me what I thought about it and I in turn asked him what he felt about it because we've been here, done that once before and I honestly feel this is one reason we are where we are. My stress level was extremely high when we've had his family stay with us and in turn I ended up ignoring my husbands needs/wants. So in the end we decided to let brother know that if he got a job he could stay untl he could get is own place. HELLO! that means husband moves back into master bedroom. So what does my husband say when I ask how he feels about that - he says it will make "our situation a little strange" and then goes on to make a joke that we could "put a wall down the middle of the bed". I gave him a funny look like I didn't think it was funny and he insisted he was joking. We walked into the kitchen to tell his brother and as we were walking into the kitchen my husband flicked me on the butt, something he hasn't done in a long time.

So I started thinking that maybe this was husbands "test" for me. How do I hold up to this stress, do I go back to ignoring his needs when brother moves in, sort of thing. It also got him moved back in to the bedroom. Any other takes on it?

So here I am throwing my arms up in the air wondering what the heck is happening.

(Tomorrow marks two weeks on antidepressants for husband.)