I think you are right to wonder if the 2 widows will have any effect on your wife. It's pretty much human nature for women to complain about their husbands, but usually, widows miss the man and he becomes a lot better in hindsight. I remember once when I was at the hairdresser's, she was telling me about a widow who complained all the time about her husband. But after he died, all she could talk about was how they danced in the kitchen every night! Memory is a funny thing!