18 Wheels and a Dozen Roses

[AJM80]

So, funny thing. MIL and FIL visited just before I found out about A. They brought a large Mum as a housewarming gift, as we had just moved.

For some reason, mentally, I associate this plant with our relationship. It was huge and healthy when I got it, but like our relationship, really died back in Oct/Nov and was almost dead over the winter. Small shoots stayed green, though. It started to get much bigger. Then in the spring I put it outside too soon and it died back again.

This week it flowered (mums usually flower in the fall, so kind of weird). It's still pretty small, but seems to be quite healthy in a gnarly old tree sort of way. The mums I planted last year are huge and flourishing. This one is just sort of plodding along.

It's nearly nine here and H has not sent the note telling me when to expect him tomorrow. I bring this up because I asked him a few weeks ago to start giving me more notice (vs 9pm the night before or even in the morning). I'm not sure if I should let it go or politely remind him that I don't like the last minute notice (since he only comes part of the day, it makes it hard for us to make plans for the time he's not here). Part of me thinks, I should be setting firm boundaries. Another part of me thinks, I don't know what's going on with him today (esp since he said he was looking to end it with OW) and I don't want to come off as a nag.

I cc'd him (with others) on a few fun pictures of the kids out playing today. Otherwise, no contact.

We had a fun day and spent time with a good gf. And a good friend got engaged this weekend!