He drunk text me at 2am last night and said: "I wanted to know if I could take the dog out for a walk sometime. I would not take her with out your permission. the dog misses me like you know, we all miss!" I was perturbed so I text him back and said: "I would appreciate it if you would not text me after midnight anymore. You can text me tommorow about the dog, thanks".So he text me back again at 5:40am and said: "ok, i am sorry, I understand". Then he text again at 8:50am and said: " I am really sorry tipper, i didnt mean any disrespect. I have been stressed out about the business. And I am wondering if I could come get my drums today becuase we booked a last minute gig".So I text him back, and said:" Thanks for understanding.I will leave the door to the front porch unlocked so you can get your drums today. he said thanks, I said no prob. Then he text me AGAIN today at 2pm and said:I am still a go to guy for you. I want our friendship to last as we move on. we can do the impossible if possible. I am moving on but your my best friend, ok?"I didnt respond.
So my ?'s to anyone out there reading this: - is do you see a bit of jeckel and hyde here? -Should I allow him to walk the dog. (i did allow this in the past and I was friendly to him the last 2 times he left). -Should I continue to do those things that worked towards his return, or should I stop so that he can start to feel a sense of loss of my friendship and seeing the dog. I ask, because, I am starting to see that even though those things worked in him returning to me, he never really worked on getting himself better. I have heard that the WAS (alcoholic)needs to feel a sense of loss before they hit a bottom and wake up. Would it be a risky choice for me to start telling him "NO"? TIPPER
