I will try to answer as best I can...TM they live about 1 hour from me...OM was living on a boat during the week and staying with them on the weekends. I don't see the girls as often as I like but I do speak to them all the time. When they lived up in the same city. I would see them all the time....until my W brought the OM to our house....Then I would just pick them up and go out somewhere. I have read DR but I have failed real bad when this sitch started. As of late I have been doing very well. I limit all the contact through texts..Very little one on one. When we did have contact I always brought up the R. AT first when she moved and asked for extra money I would be the nice guy and give it. I read the 5LL and found that her primary LL was Acts of Kindness. So I did do a few that really surprised her. My real question is if she is still very emotional when we speak does that mean she is dealing with her own guilt of what she has done. I feel based on my therapy sessions with my C, that I have had alot of growing up to do. I know where my short comings are...Actually my W has acknowledged some of my changes...but still maintains its to late. I have been GAL. After all the has happened I have made great strides to be a better man...in fact everyone around me has told me so.....I could go into detail...but let's just say that I would be a great husband and full partner to my W if a second chance was aloud.
25 as for my affair, it was short lived but typical...while during the 90's my W stayed pregnant. This OW paid some attention to me and one thing led to another.....of course at the time I did not know it started as and EA and then to PA....It only lasted about three months....and I knew I did not want the OW and ended it....AT that point I was going to take it to the grave as she was....But it got brought back up about 7 years later....if you need some details I will give them to you. As for my D's for some reason they are one there mother's side....but my 17 year old calls me all the time....I can't remember the name of my old thread .....but of course if I listened to people like Sandi and stopped having relapses I might be in a better spot now....All I know is that I know of my changes and they are good. I realize that after the D I will be ok. I know that if we got a second chance at love...things would take time. I want everyone on here that I have been reading posts for over a year.....so I will listen without fail....Scott
