However my upbringing which is a very strong background of ( Family, honesty, integrity, trust, loyalty ) you see where I am going with this, prevents me from doing this. I don't give up on anything easily, especially family.
She isn't family anymore, she's another man's wife.
That you are considering going to a C to work on your R, I get. I don't get it, nor do I think it's a good idea if she is not completely done with everyone else and in a place where she can take care of herself. Anything else is using you.
She is not behaving like a woman. She is acting like a girl. Is this what you want? Do you need to be a White Knight? I guarantee that's not what she needs, although it may be what she wants.
I know that if one of my D's said what your son said to me, I would take a long hard look at what I was teaching them. I understand that your son is grown. That doesn't mean your influence over his life and esp the last 7 years is minimized.
Watching both of my D's with boyfriends has given me a different look at myself. It's led to some convo's that have been priceless for all of us.
I'm so sorry you are going through all this and for all this time.
