7 Years in. Time to give up ?

[DavidA]

What would I like to achieve ? A much better relationship than I had. TRUST...

Am I codependent ? Possibly to a point. I really have no fear of loosing her because at this point I don't have her. But I don't need her or any other woman to survive and be happy. I was doing very well for the last seven years without her. I do want female companionship in my life but I don't want the drama. This doesn't mean I am not willing to work to make a relationship work.

What am I doing to achieve it ? Living my life as a good honest and decent man. Providing and caring for my family as well as her. I have suggested counseling for us alone and as a couple and have yet to get her to agree. She openly confesses she has many issues that need to be addressed yet has not moved forward to solve them. I can't fix her, she has to do that herself.

My life would be much more peaceful and serene if I were to give up the whole mess, ( X, kids, grand-kids, house ) and move on and only concern myself with my life and well being. However my upbringing which is a very strong background of ( Family, honesty, integrity, trust, loyalty ) you see where I am going with this, prevents me from doing this. I don't give up on anything easily, especially family. I am an old WASP ;-)

I have no privacy at the moment so I must end here. David