Quick recap.....M for 23 years T for 25 years...five girls....She was a stay at home home and I worked my tail off so she could homeschool..15 years ago I had a short lived A....I swore I would take it to my grave...Our M was ok but not great. 6 years ago she found out. I packed up and bought her a house in the country and moved her trying to make it work....15 months ago she came to me and told me she wanted a D. After some snooping I found out that she was having an EA with a military man 13 years younger than her....Alot of crap has happened over the last 15 months....She has not waivered a bit on the D...Here is my problem...I give her a pretty good chunk of cash each month for the girls and her...She works a job and her hours fluxuate some. She informed me that her man has to go back across the water to Iraq. Now I am all for the supporting our troops. But here is where I am having a bad time. She took a leave of absence to be with him until he leaves. She told me that I was to support her and the girls because she will not get a check for two more weeks. I am freaking mad that she did this. She wanted to spend time with him and use more than the money I give her becasue of the leave of absence. No from what I gather on here there is a thin line between my girls and her. I know that she will not have any money for food or gas. Do I draw the line and tell her to figure it out or do I just give her more money. Its not like I have it in buckets. Second thing is that she was crying that he was going to a bad area. I have been in law enforcment for 27 years and put a weapon on every night and not one tear was ever shed for me and this hurts me. Is this part of the MLC or WAS syndrome. We go days without speaking and only a few texts. It was her birthday today and she told me never to metion her age again or how young her B is.. So ask any questions and I will try to answe. I can't figure how to link my old thread to this one....There is a whole lot more to say about what has transpired over the last year. She did bring up the D the other day and I took a line right off of here. I said W i do not want a D but I can't stop you from getting one. I will not assist you in anyway shape or form. She just hung up on me. Someone on here read somewhere that if she still gets upset than she is not yet done...I do want to save this M and become a stronger married couple once again, or even better than before. Any help would be great. Scott
