I can relate to many of your emotions, I feel your pain man. I don't think people that haven't gone through a D can comprehend the emotional devastation and trauma of it.
Your IC is right, in 25 years we'll all be senile enough to not remember STBXs...but it's a long ride there.
Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again