Affair (continued)

[25yearsmlc]

Chris, your biggest enemy right now is your fear and your anxiety. This is why it is important you work on yourself and get your head clear.

For your W, there are two BIG things you need to learn.

1. LISTEN. REALLY LISTEN. CAREFULLY.

2. Empathize. Understand HER feelings. HER fears. HER hurt.

Erase all timelines in your head. Those timelines are based on what YOU want and when YOU think it should happen. It doesn't work that way. These timelines will only add to your fear and anxiety.

What HE ^^^^^ said...please read this and what Jack and others have told you...AND please don't keep saying you know you "disgust" her. Doesn't need repeating.

But learn to be quiet and speak much less. Just stop yourself if you've made a statement b/c You don't need to say it in 5 ways.

You should and could have waited to send an answer to her. ALWAYS run them by here or somewhere, first. We'd have stopped you from writing that thing you wrote.

You seem impulsive, and that's something else you might want to work on. That and just listening. That means that a lot of times you don't need to reply to her, let alone right away. Make sense?

You have only been here a month (actually it was May 5th, right? Not even one month. No way could anyone expect her to feel "Comfortable" around you or affectionate. That's too fast. It's not a reasonable expectation on your end, or hers (don't tell her that).

Finally, even if she truly feels this way now, it does not mean it's an immutable fact. Things change. Feelings do. In time.