For the record, did you ask for such specific advice on how to have an affair?
If you had never done it before, surely you must have learned it from somewhere else.
Why don't you use the same strategy you did for cheating that you do for repairing your marriage.
Unless the reason is...you don't really want it.
Read that thing you wrote to your wife again.
Would have ever written something so cold-hearted to your lover (before you decided you no longer wanted her, but not so bad that you didn't tell your wife).
You have the capability - now do you have the commitment - cheating is indeed a commitment you can compare this to.
