I said I wouldn't post again, but this really takes the cake.
Just do your wife a favor and steer clear of her until you get a handle on the horse sh!t you are writing to her and her.
It's STILL all about you, and even when people tell you it's all about you, you act like --oops, I didn't know.
You act like you want advice but don't take it.
You act like you want to listen and then blast through an email that's all about you and none of the concerns your wife raises.
You act like you are a child caught in some terrible naughty thing, but soon your wife will come out of the fog and all will be good.
If you used have the brain power you did to deceive your wife that you do in ignoring her requests, you marriage might have a chance.
You said your wife had a lot more class than me. Well, I feel sorry that her class drove you into the skirts of another woman. You can expect your wife to get a helluva lot more vulgar as the shock wears off and the survival instinct kicks in.
She'll start to see the way you hid time, money, feelings, and sexual activity in a logical way. If you think this is mean, you might need to brace yourself. Trust me and others who have been through this path.