What would be your feeling and outlook if you had left him before he left you?
It seems you had reason to. Yes?
I've given it some thought TrueGritter.
My feeling and outlook if I had left him, would be very much the same as I often feel when I think about our R and about H in particular. In sum a total devaluation of me as a person.
That he didn't/doesn't really care about me. That my wants and needs are irrelevant,an irritant and an extra burden. That our marriage is a convienence, and I an extra pair of hands and sex doll.
I can say I would have probably felt completely justified in leaving and would have treated him as if he was dead or invisible to me, knowing what I know now, about how I would have once behaved in protecting myself in the not too distant past.
BITS Me-51, WAS-52 Kids 2 M-26yrs, H.left 2009, 2 more Bomb drops, Reconnection spring 2013 Change is inevitable, personal growth is a choice. Love is a action and choice you make, every day.
