basically we are seperated now what?

[Queen_of_Swords]

I can only commisserate with you and say that if you haven't read Divorce Rememdy to get it and read it.
I'd also take a gander over in Midlife crisis and take a look there for familiar patterns that you may be witnessing.
As for why she cried, only she can really tell you the why, it could be a number of things. As for why she got angry well anger is usually a cover for deeper more painful emotions usually having to do with a percieved slap to one's self esteem and image of oneself.
The severe illness of a marriage and the real possibility of it dying for good isn't an easy thing to contemplate for we women, our connections to those we love are in many cases how we define ourselves.