First time caller...

[Truegritter]

She chooses not to forgive, but to wrap herself in her pain and hurt like some bizarre security blanket.

And this will always be her choice to forgive or not. It should not dictate your future.

Do not put in her hands your own healing or salvation from your sins.

The letter to yourself. A good start.

Living it is the hard part.

And

It will get easier to bear when you accept that you do not control her.

You decide when it stops hurting.

That is the toughest part in this but I tell you when you have traveled along the path a while you see it plain as day.

The real b!tch is that your eyes only open when you have had enough pain.

As my friend Brooklyn likes to say "only way through it, is through it"

No shortcuts. No excuses. No regrets.