I'm lost. need help with WAW

[LearningPatience]

I think it takes a long time to be *really* sure. I left my married status the same until this last Monday, even with everything between her and OM going on and all of our friends knowing. Partly due to appearances, partly due to hope and partly because I wanted to keep the road home smooth. That's about 10-12 months, depending on where you want to count our problems from starting.