Thank you so much for your replies....Have been married 23yrs...together 30....two children 22 and 20....We are in MC, so saving our marraige is what we are trying to do....and yes I have read Not Just Friends, but my husband doesnt seem to interested in what any book has to say...as everyone knows some good days....some bad...I have told him I will not tolerate anymore abuse whether it be emotional or physical....the physical hasnt happened in a few years , but the emotional seemed to be an everyday occurance which really hurts and I have made that known.....MC seems to be helping....had a good session this week....so I guess we will take one day at a time.....the sad part it that we were always best of friends and very compatible in our issues, interests, hobbies etc....so Im hoping we go forward....Again I appreciate everyones POV
