Break down her email, line by line and see what she is saying.
See what she needs. Be worried about some of it, but not fearful.
Give her the things you can give her. Oh...and REALLY give it to her not some false words you forget about at your convienence. We tend to do that.
Take your time, but respond and validate.
These are my words, not yours, I am not suggesting you use them, and even if you ignored me, right now is not the right time at all.
"Not only that what am I teaching Emma, that it is ok to let a man completely disrespect her and that it is ok. And Jacob that it is ok to disrespect a women. I just can’t do that."
She is right about this, and wrong as well. We teach our children forgiveness too. When something is worth it to fight for it. Not to overlook the sin, but to come to forgive it if the sinner is truely remorseful. And to be wary of it until trust is rebuilt.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
