This might sound hard, and it is but not as a 4x4.
This is the consequence of your choice.
Awest is right Time and consistency of your action.
Advice:
Stop telling her about who is calling you, stop telling her what your doing on the computer. Point in fact, I'd see it, if it was done to me as a reminder of what happened. Tell her if she asks, but stop informing her.
Pull back just a little, but be transparent when she asks.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK