I have validated everything she has asked for and wanted. I have not talked about OM in weeks. I even helped her move her things to the new apartment with my brother, and showed no emotion when I did, I actually was in a good mood, and I think she thought I would be upeset. I havent asked her to change her mind in two weeks.
It seems as long as she doesnt see the kids, she doesnt ask for them to come stay, but when she sees them at one of their ball games or wherever. She then freaks out and starts the ranting. I am not sure at this point what is going on in her mind.
Her original plan was to tell the kids this past weekend, and then not move out until the weekend of June 3. Well I decided that she is not goint to be control of this, nor hang that emotion over me and the kids heads. So I called her three days before she left and told her she would tell the kids last weekend and she would move out the same day. I told her she would not stay here for 10 days after breaking their hearts and hang around to watch them suffer. This has been tough on her as she was not expecting to move out so soon.
My opinion at this point that there was a plan for her and OM to move away from each others homes on the same weekend. He has yet to leave his family and is just sneaking out on the weekends to see her. I think that reality is starting to sink in for her. She is losing control of the sitch, she knows now I am moving on and heading in a different direction, and OM is still going home to his w and kids everyday.
I dont think he will leave his family, I think he was expecting just an affair and she is taking further and quicker than he expected. From word I got about him from a friend that works on base with him, is that he is a womanizer, stuck on himself.
I think at this point he is shaking in his boots, as I think he expected me to stop her and I didnt, I gave her what she wanted and now the pressure is on him to make a move. I am afraid that when she realizes that he is not moving out, she will freak out even more and make life very tough for him. And even if he does move out, his W will make his life a living hell. I have been on her facebook and there is no sign of any trouble with their marriage at this point.
