Update:
I sat on the couch this weekend with my kids, while she stood in front of us and announced she is moving out. I made sure to sit with them, to make them understand better that this was something that mom had to do. My d14 said nothing and showed no emotion, my s12 cried really hard, and my s8 just sat there with not emotion. She told them that she loved and cared for them, but she felt it was best to move out. She couldnt finish without crying, so I finished for her. I told the kids while I had my arms around them on the couch, that mom is going through some things right now, and she loved them, but needed to do this in order to make her self better for her and for them. I told them that God and myself had their backs, and God would bring them and mom through this.

She gave them each a hug, my S12 was still crying, s8 just sat there, and my d14 turned her head when she tried to kiss her bye.

After she left, she walked outside, and I told her good luck, and that I wished her the best in life.

I have truly been the better man in all of this. As bad as it hurt for me to do it. I read all the information on this website and with some good advice on here, I dbing as I should. I didnt call the OM wife, I didnt call her work, and for the past two weeks leading up to that day, have disconnected from her. I started to GAL, and she has taken notice already.

The last couple days, she has been very unstable, she is calling me and yelling and crying about the kids, telling me she misses them and how I am keeping them from her. Which I am not, but I told her they need some time to adjust, before she just brings them over to the new apt. I dont understand how she can be so fired up to leave and then when she does, she is acting the way she is now. I havent called or texted her since she left, all contact is coming from her. But when she does call, its nothing more than an emotional train wreck and a lot of yelling and crying on her part. I stay calm, and tell her is she does not stop yelling and insults that I will hang up until she can calm down. I told her that, we were done, and from this point forward, its all about the kids and their minds and hearts.