Nine: Thanks for your feedback. Yup, times are changing. I am not worried about my daughter not having the same last name as mine. I guess i am more upset that wife is doing this as some sort of retribution. Yup, thanks for that tip on staying calm. Yea i do see my wife go nuts when i am staying calm.
LP: Yup, i did hit myself on the head for not asking my wife to let this convo go through the lawyer. Learnt my lesson. No more direct talks with her on these matters. I cannot seem to handle them well. Thanks for your support.
SC : Thanks so much for dropping by. Yea one of the things i am holding onto here is that daughter is only 3. I'd love for things to get better by the time she is at the questioning age. Yea, i like your idea of the two teachers at both the towns. I'll put it out to wife once we're back to talking again.
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