I'm lost. need help with WAW

[GAL Man]

Thanks for your comments LP, much appreciated

Some responses in red

The only negative was a recent post on fb (after wed eve) saying she was happy and content with life, but is this just her defenses coming up!

I'm not sure why this would be a negative. Whether she's truly happy or not, wouldn't you want her to be content?
I dont have an answer for that, I suppose so

My plan was just to catch up, but should I say that I still think we can work at things? that would be all I say about the R. I am now also planning to say that I had become someone I didnt like and now I know who I really am.

I think this might be my first 2x4 Don't do it! Catching up is great, it keeps the road home smooth. Talking about your changes or bringing up R in any way, shape or form, no no no! Actions, not words.

I think this is for me, I want to know I suppose that do I now move on with my life or see if there is something there to work at. I wont bring up that I have changed back to the "true" me. The problem I have is as I posted, she is so stubburn and proud she will not show her emotions or her position untill I have, this has always been the case in these situations

If she doesnt turn up, or says nothing has changed I will be dropping the rope big time, plus I will delete her off fb. I need to do this for me. I have detatched to a degree with the understanding that I love my W, but she is responsible for her own journey, I need to concentrate on mine, and by doing this it will help ME.

Is this your frustration talking or where you truly are on this journey? BTW, it's great that you recognize you each have your own paths to follow, but I'm not certain you have the detachment down yet.

I know I dont have the detatchment "done" yet, but I feel I have come on a bit since this all started, and I really feel that if I dont see any sign I need to "drop the rope" and delete her from fb. I need to do this for ME, I have had so many ups and downs this week trying to think of the best way of approaching things, what do you think about deleting her from fb?

Just have a relaxed, casual time tonight. No pressure, no expectations and again NO R talk.

Thanks again LP