lost, I understand the reasoning behind your R/M breakdown. However, these do not excuse an A. Not trying to attack you, just letting you know how most people here are going to react.
My W has been having an EA/brief PA for a year now. This is by far the most painful thing that has ever happened to me. I'm sure your H feels the same way. He is hurting big time.
One book I've found especially helpful is Not Just Friends by Shirley Glass. It shows how As develop (yours is a common story) and how they affect everyone involved. It also shows ways of recovering and is written for all the parties involved, BS, WS and OP.
I wish both of you the best of luck. It's a hard road whichever path you take.
Me 43 W 38 M 5 T 7 SD20 S15, S13 with 1st W ILYBNILWY June 2010 Separation/Bomb July 2010 Divorce Feb 8, 2011
