I'm lost. need help with WAW

[LearningPatience]

The only negative was a recent post on fb (after wed eve) saying she was happy and content with life, but is this just her defenses coming up!

I'm not sure why this would be a negative. Whether she's truly happy or not, wouldn't you want her to be content?

My plan was just to catch up, but should I say that I still think we can work at things? that would be all I say about the R. I am now also planning to say that I had become someone I didnt like and now I know who I really am.

I think this might be my first 2x4 Don't do it! Catching up is great, it keeps the road home smooth. Talking about your changes or bringing up R in any way, shape or form, no no no! Actions, not words.

If she doesnt turn up, or says nothing has changed I will be dropping the rope big time, plus I will delete her off fb. I need to do this for me. I have detatched to a degree with the understanding that I love my W, but she is responsible for her own journey, I need to concentrate on mine, and by doing this it will help ME.

Is this your frustration talking or where you truly are on this journey? BTW, it's great that you recognize you each have your own paths to follow, but I'm not certain you have the detachment down yet.

Just have a relaxed, casual time tonight. No pressure, no expectations and again NO R talk.