I found you! Didnt realise you were still posting.
You know what my dear friend? You are sooooo stuck. Both of you but mostly you (mostly because I dont "talk to her").
So, what are we going to do? IMHO, you cant do much at this point. Because you sound like you dont have the energy to. I sense a lot of "entitlement", grudges, etc etc. Not in a vindictive way. In the way that most LBSs would feel if they had to face the same sh!t twice.
Take a break. Move out, calm down, really calm down, miss her and THEN save your M. Moving out may not follow the rule of not moving out your house but it follows the rule of "do something different and feel good about yourself again".
