I'm lost. need help with WAW

[GAL Man]

Update

W came round to pick kids up on Wed eve, asked to have a cig with me, I said I didn't have long as was going out.

Brief chat, W asked how I was etc, and said are you sure your OK, which I said I was really well.

Anyway, I said to her I was going to Starbucks on Fri eve as usual and said I thought you might like to come. I said it this way specifically, as not to "ask" her. W seemed quite surprised and asked why, I just repeated, I just thought you might like to come that was all. W seemed, well IDK pleased?

When she was leaving she said she was away for work on Fri but would try and get back and what time would I be there, to which I said between 6 and 6.30, W said she would text me.

10 min after she left I got a text asking what I wanted to talk about on Fri, which I didn't reply to, then she tried calling me and left me a message saying that she was confused as to why I wanted to meet up and what did I want to talk about, W said nothing else, i.e. that she didn't want to come, it was over or her feelings hadnt changed etc.

I sent her a text the next day saying this, "as u know I have been doing to Starbuck quite a bit and have planned to go next on Fri and thought u might like to come, that was all. I didn't ask you to come, if u feel it inapropriate or dont want to then dont come. u either want to come or u dont want to come, simple....I will be there anyhow". I have not had a reply to this, and actually looking at it now it seems quite an assertive message!

I have done this as I want to know where the land lies so to speak. The signs I have been reading are this (but could be wrong, dont know what is going on in her head)

1) D has said they have been fighting alot, and W is always moody
2) She is now drinking wine each night (to help sleep?)
3) 3rd degre questioning if I am seeing someone
4) W thinking I had sent her a letter from solicitor/laywer
5) Email, text and call, where I feel she was waiting for me to say something else
6) Worrying what I want to see her about on Fri

The only negative was a recent post on fb (after wed eve) saying she was happy and content with life, but is this just her defenses coming up!

My plan was just to catch up, but should I say that I still think we can work at things? that would be all I say about the R. I am now also planning to say that I had become someone I didnt like and now I know who I really am.

It does frustrates me that W is so stubborn and proud plus she never shows her emotions. She has to wait to see where I am first before she comits herself, she has always been like this!!!!

If she doesnt turn up, or says nothing has changed I will be dropping the rope big time, plus I will delete her off fb. I need to do this for me. I have detatched to a degree with the understanding that I love my W, but she is responsible for her own journey, I need to concentrate on mine, and by doing this it will help ME.