What about an in-house separation? As much as your W says she wants you there, it doesn't make sense to spend the money for you to sleep elsewhere.

My H and I had an in-house separation, and it worked out well. Maybe it would work for you too...we were in MC the whole time.

SD

Me: 40
H: 43
H had EA from 2/06-9/06
Bomb 5/06
Piecing since 9/2006
3/2008: Boundary setting
7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb.
8/2010: Marriage finally on track!