Patience, I am so appreciative for your post. Yes, it has been some time since I posted, I figured my topic had moved way to the end, and my frustration with the delay had pushed me away from here.
Yes, as even she has said, 6 months doesn't mean much to her, but I have to take it day by day and make every day count.
I have had a better couple days, been really trying to be independent, trying to stay busy when at home, and really focusing on our son. Not sure I had mentioned him, "B", but he is 3. I have really been trying to listen and validate her thoughts or complaints, be on her side, and not try to analyze her actions. Just tonight I was really distant by not even looking at her for lengths of time, and I found her trying to interact with me, by asking questions, and commenting when B and I were talking. maybe it was nothing, but it seemed good.
I know i need to GAL, but I do find myself analyzing every little thing, wondering if it is a positive sign. I keep telling myself I can't do that as I am not focusing on myself. I have noticed in the last couple days that she is more down or angry, i almost think because she sees me as being more independent, and thinks I should not be happy. I need to be depressed as well.
The changes I have made, do make me feel better about myself. I need to continue that, but are there any other 180 tips that may help. It seems like I have given the 180 about 3-4 wks, with none or some marginal changes. The book says to change it up if 3 wks go by and no changes. Shall I ask her to do something fun, or will that go against all db techniques?
