I think you are doing well too. We all have to get through this at our own pace. These boards are great to vent. One thing though that is true, going through your ex's crisis is life changing, tragic and sad. The damage they do is huge. It is not something that is easy to get through or forget. I will always carry it with me. Now though it is in a smaller box than before. I pull that box out occassionally, not quite as often as before. I sure don't obsess over it like I use too. I believe that when they do start slowly waking up, (if they do) the tide turns and they start hurting, and obsessing over their loss of you. They start reaping what they have sown.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
