cont.. It was nothing you did, said, or did not do. You truly have to believe that in order to let go. You have to come to the conclusion that your life is just as important as the midlifer. You have to believe that you deserve happiness and a fulfilling life.
Does you ex think about you? Yes, often. Does he miss what you had? Yes, very. Does he still love you? I don't think they really know the meaning of "love". Somewhere that concept got distorted and destroyed. If they come out of the crisis, I believe they can eventually understand and come to appreciate that love is a choice, a committment, a vow, something sacred. I think they were just acting out what they thought they needed to do at the time.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
