I have been impressed by the amount of introspection you've been doing, by the way you've been challenging the way things were and determining to change them. Keep on digging--this is liberating stuff. At the same time, be gentle with yourself. If you were harsh or unappreciative or selfish in the past, that was the best you were able to do THEN, so don't blame yourself for not living up to the standards you are now beginning to set. Gently acknowledge that you would no longer make the same choices, forgive yourself, and carry on in the new manner. I found this to be enormously helpful in learning to love myself better, and in learning to understand and forgive my H as well.
Other than that, keep rereading 25's posts--there's gold in them. Words certainly never get in the way for her!!
