I realize that it may seem that this was all planned, but it really isn't likely so. The brain does a lot of re-work, and your mind is framing it in this way. A lot of folks do that. And a lot of folks here FEED that perspective. It doesn't make it true.
The most important perspective is--how does what you believe about the situation affect how you behave. And that's where being positive is most helpful. The truth is that people change their minds even throughout a given day. Your wife's mind has changed in so many different ways throughout this time. So has yours.
Set your goal. Set your mind/thoughts to help you achieve your goals. Monitor results and adjust accordingly.
Btw, BTM--You are an asset to the board and I am glad you are here and posting.
