7 Years in. Time to give up ?

[DavidA]

Hi Folks,
I have been reading the posts and it seems the general opinion is against this sites motto of db'ing and sticking it out to piece back together a 22 year failed marriage.

As far as her current marriage goes, I don't even recognize it other than the fact it presents legal implications. We were married in a catholic church and our divorce was only civil and not religious. Matter of opinion and beliefs. As far as i am concerned divorce is only a piece of paper and doesn't reflect what is truly in ones heart. She never really truly divorced me in her heart and I know that for a fact.

Maybe I travel in the wrong circles but the women I meet are in much of the same or worse state emotionally.

She told my son today that she was here for the long haul and she wasn't just fixing up things and planting a garden to up and sell the place and leave.

I really don't know what to believe anymore. Maybe I'm being gas lighted and I'm not smart enough to figure it out.

It doesn't seem possible for her to have time for another relationship outside of house work and her job but the the cell phone thing really has me paranoid.

Maybe she really was traumatized by the treatment of her husband and it going to take time before she can be comfortable with a man again.

There are just so many variables that it truly has me confused as to what is really in her heart.

I am going to stick it out a while longer and see what happens when it comes time for her to file for divorce and see what happens. I have nothing to loose but another 6 months of my life. Compared to what I have already bee through I guess it's not a big investment.

DavidA