I didn't bring it up. My W called me like she normally does. I could tell right away she was in thinking/talking mode.
She said she felt stuck, in limbo. she said she feels like the marriage we have right now isn't a good one. too much reaction from both of us. She the only time she felt positive was during our talk about the separation because it felt like we were working together on moving forward. We were doing something... not letting things happen.
I told her about the divorce bomb dream, she said "Well that's not the case."
I think she is very committed to the separation idea...almost too committed. She also said every now and then it will hit her what it means. She fears that she could damage our relationship permanently, she fears the kids will be adversely affected. but she also said that we have to do something. She said she is committed to working on the M and hopeful ,but only with S.
She said she has to come to terms with the idea that we will never have an M like we had. I agree, but it's hard for me because before this our M was great. she did say that we could build a better M.
We are going to have another talk on Friday night to deal with logistics and boundaries, to which she agreed. For example no dating other people.
I don't know if this can work or it's just a slow road to divorce. When I think about the later I am heart-broken.
All because I tried to look at her stupid phone.
the problem is some of the things she said are some of the things they say in newcomers are some of the All-Time Cheaters Lies. Like she said 'I don't want to date anyone.' Say that over there and you will get slapped with a "that's part of the cheaters script."
I used to feel good that my W and were still in the same house. Now that will change. I feel this is a GIANT step backwards. I can't see the positives, I can't see the hope.
Can you be separated and still piece?
Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet. --Jean Jacques Rousseau.
