for the card, maybe something about the coming year being a better one, or a year of "healing", recovering, growth, etc.
IDK but while you can't ignore her h's death and you could say something about his passing being a loss b/c of who he was to her, yet it IS a milestone in HER life and so, I guess you ought to try and steer it forward with some hope...??
Like one clause for him/past, and the next clause for the coming year. Just a thought.
Very good thoughts. I need to make sure it is NOT just a sympathy card. It is her birthday.
Sunny, those were very kind words, thank you very much. Like you said, there is no way to know what the future holds, but this is a learning experience. It has made me see myself and the world in a new way.
I came across a quote I really liked by Mark Twain the other day that I think fits well.
A man who carries a cat by the tail learns something he can learn in no other way.
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Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.
I would appreciate any thoughts on my current draft for MIL's card. I kept it short, as words just seem to come up empty.
MIL,
It’s hard to find the words during such a difficult time. I am sure this day brings with it many memories.
I hope you find some peace today, and perhaps bits of joy. While I know the coming year will be a difficult one, I hope it also brings healing, strength and love.
Happy Birthday MIL, you are continually in my thoughts and prayers.
Love,
Country
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That is very nice. One thing for Monday - what if you plan a picnic for D and ask wife to meet you at park (somewhere in the middle) to pick her up? Tell her she's welcome to show up earlier and hang out/eat, since it will just be casual family time.
Faith is, at one and the same time, absolutely necessary and altogether impossible. --Stanislaw Lem
Personally, I would send her a card wishing her a happy birthday.
No need to remind her of what's happened and what the future holds for her.
Keep it simple.
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IDK gr8.. Her h 's death will be in the forefront always. I think its very nice and thoughtful.
I believe you should send it country. All good will.
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I don't think I can completely ignore it gr8. It's only been 3 weeks. I have been going over it though, and I am thinking about taking out the first part.
MIL,
It’s hard to find the words during such a difficult time. I am sure this day brings with it many memories.
I hope you find some peace today, and perhaps bits of joy. While I know the coming year will be a difficult one, I hope it also brings healing, strength and love.
Happy Birthday MIL, you are continually in my thoughts and prayers.
Love,
Country
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Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.
The funeral, the mass cards and the luncheon for the funeral were all times to wish condulences.
Did you send her a sympathy card already?
I don't expect to receive birthday cards from my friends wishing me a happy birth but it really sux your W left you.
Totally your call. I'm just telling you what I would do.
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