After MLC, do they understand their behavior?

[canadianMrs.]

25yrs, thank you for your input. I do appriciate not sugar coating it.
If he comes, I will give him tones of credit,and so will everyone else. He has been told this too. I think everyone else is also waiting for him to make a change. One other thing about staying here, is the circle of "friends" he has at work. 80% of them are cheating on their spouses. Its a don't ask, don't tell policy. Something I have just been made aware of. I know H's old friends, and they would be disgusted to behave like that. I've moved twice in the last 10 years for H, so maybe its H's turn to sacrifice something? It just feels like too much is against us here...more so than peoples opions back home. Those people are willing to except him back. I've told him I will help him mend fences back home too.
My feeling is, we can't get back together right now anyway. His change of heart seems to have happened as quickly as the "bomb". I need to be sure, and he needs to be sure. Then baby steps. We are talking, really talking so that is a good step. We've been together for so long and been through so much, I realize the distance will be hard, but I don't think its impossible. As hard as the move will be, I think staying would be worse in the long run.