Before committing to the finality of that decision, perhaps he needs a nudge. You handled this sitch well enough, perhaps next time you may get away with attaching some conditions/expectations on your sitch should you decide to stay - such as he WILL leave the OW, you two will get counseling, you will work on your R - not just for finances and the kids, but for each other and your M. You will also have to demonstrate your desire to compromise and contribute to this process - as in the failure of your M was not all his fault and you both have work to do - together.
It feels as if you are closer than ever before to getting you M back, yet also closer to the move. Perhaps you are right. Perhaps the time away on your vacation will put his future in the proper perspective. However, don't have that expectation. Just enjoy your time with your family for yourself.
After reading through the convo with the H, I fully back OMW on this one. I think he summed it up pretty good.
I see the two of you closer than ever before on this one. Yes, he is still seeing OW. We knew that was a possibility. what I took out of it was the honesty on his side. I think if I asked my W if she was still seeing the OW right now, I would get the no answer regardless of the truth. For your husband to come out and tell you the truth and his expectations for the future of that relationship was big.
Man. I would love to see what kid of future could be developed if you stayed in town under the pretense that the two of you go to counseling and the relationship with the OW cease. That is why I like OMW's suggestions that you setup agreements if you were to stay.
AJ - I am proud of you to have that discussion with your H. I know that it took a lot of courage. You handled it very well.
Me - 33 W - 33 S - 9 months M - 3 years T - 5.5 years Bomb - 12/14/10 ILYBNILWY PA discovered - 1/18/11 PA began - 3/22/10 Separated
