Detach Dog

[ninelives]

Saw a good friend of mine down at the soccer field. He owns a grocery store and gave me an excellent deal last year on my BBQ. I asked him what he had in the way of patio sets, Ironically enough, thats where we bought the last ones. he asked , a question if this was divorce related. He knows my sitch ( small town) .

I told him the highlights , he said.

" give it to her , Ill give you a deal so for 80 bucks more you can have a brand new set"

Sometimes, things fall into place. So I texted her this morning and said.

"After sleeping on it, Ive decided to give you the patio set since you picked it out, Ill have it out front for you and your brother by tommorrow."

No reply from her yet. I will not mention the new set and will not tell her about the good deal Ill be getting.

I just want to put this stuff behind me. Its strange how she is so angry all the time when we converse now. Her nephew told me once that she blames me for almost everything and still likes to point the finger at me when things go wrong for her because she feels comfortable doing that. I dont know where he got that from but I am seeing it more and more. I guess its easy to blame somebody else. We all do it to some extent and I know I have done that as well.

Im trying not to show her any anger and actually trying to go one better. Trying not to have any anger. Im doing way better in this dept. Still havent reached the level of foregiveness that I want to attain. I hope it comes some day. Got to keep trying to achieve this.

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