I too appreciated Cindy's post. I'm not sure if my reply will make it to the board, because I've posted my introduction to this board twice in the newcomers forum and neither time did my post appear. I'm about to give up and in the meantime my marriage continues to disintegrate.
I'm trying to do some of the things that Cindy mentioned motivated her to come back to the relationship but it's unbelievably hard. My husband is still living in this house because we don't yet want to tell the kids about what it going on. One of our children is headed to Europe for 2 months and she's already nervous enough, so we don't want to lay this on her. In the meantime, I've been living this limbo with a man who announced to me 2 months ago that he's not "loved" me for quite some time and is 'done.' He is "in love" with someone else--someone who has been a friend to him, who is 23 years younger than him, no kids, no obligations, etc etc.
