Cindy:
Your note about what it took to get you to come back has given me a ray of sunshine in an otherwise very dark and dreary existance. I love my W dearly, and, when our troubles over the past couple of years made me step back and reexamine our life, I realized how wrong I had been. I had neglected the only thing important to me. And now I have lost that. We both made mistakes, but we have been important to each other for two decades. It is a cruel irony that I finally re-realized what I had, but only after it was gone.

W is firmly set on D and leaving the state. She needs to do this to find her happiness, she thinks. We were on the road to recovery, I thought, before I took a major trip this spring (3 months). Now she is firm, and I am at a loss. Feel like an old shirt that has been tossed out. Not good.

I am doing my best to DB and GAL. Only hope she has time to notice.

Thanks for listening.


H 51, W 46
no kids
T 22 years
M 17 years
ILBNILWY 2/10
1st D talk 6/10
partial recovery
W files D 5/11
long distance separation 8/11
moving forward on D 10/11
legal separation complete 1/2012