Here's what I keep telling myself--ITS NOT ABOUT YOU!!! Its just what happens on these sites. My friend did eharmony a few years ago and now I tell her about it, and she's like "Oh, that happened to me, too". You can't take it too personally and a sense of humor is really important. You don't know whether the guy you messaged just met someone else, or is out of town, or isn't even actively on the site. Or wants kids/or doesn't want them, or likes blonds, or a certain height whatever. It feels pretty random in the end. I've met 4 guys who are nice...probably none is a life match, but its probably good to get out there a little bit. It took a couple of months to get to the date stage. Another guy I thought was really cute asked me for drinks one night that I had the kids, then never replied to me later...so, again, I tell myself not to take it personally. That book helped...one thing I don't want is to pursue someone who doesn't appear interested. So it helps to close the book if that happens. That never was a pattern before my marriage, but I did a lot of it during the affair...
In the end, I think I'll meet someone when I least expect it, probably not on a dating site but doing somethng I like to do...
